Ok, so as promised here are the pics of TH and I. Out of respect, I asked his permission before plastering his face for the world to see. I managed to look high as usual in the first one.
However, the 2nd two came out pretty good with the third being my favorite!
While I’m on the topic of friends or being friendly, I had an interesting conversation at the gym today. After saying hi to a girl who was very helpful when I first signed up, she decided to ask me a burning question today. She was curious as to why I am always so friendly to her.
I’m the type, I have no problem starting up a conversation w/a complete stranger. (There’s a surprise right?) I don’t know if it’s just because I’m a friendly person or if it involves something much deeper. Maybe, because I was never given much physical affection as a child. On the latter, Dr Freud is on vacation so we’ll just have to save it and crack it open on a later date. Back on story, not everyone here in SF is always receptive to my friendly ways.
I could tell she was a bit timid so I just told her to spit it out. She wanted to know if I was gay. I said, “of course.” Her response was, “I thought so I just wanted to be sure because you are always so friendly and I thought you might be trying to hit on me.” So this got us to talking about my being friendly and how receptive people here are. Or more to the point, she wanted to know if it bothered me when people weren’t receptive. It took me a minute to form a response as I’ve never really consciously thought about it. But there it was, and I was given a chance to bring it into the conscious mind. My response was I really don’t care. Simply put, if I change my ways because I find some folks aren’t receptive then I let that mentality win over. I think my friendliness or being approachable is part of what makes me so appealing to most people. Of course, I’m sure it will turn some people off to me as well. However, no one is liked by all so again that’s a no brainer.
I just thought this relevant as it was kind of a revelation to me. Maybe just because I’ve never really thought much of it. It has just always been part of who I am. Today, I got an insight into myself from a complete stranger. I guess that shows I’m still learning.
I’m in a mood today. I seem very antsy and haven’t quite nailed the reason(s) why yet. Having not felt this way in a while, its annoying the frell out of me.
Life has been keeping me a bit distracted lately so I haven’t worked on the new template much. No biggie as life should come first. You’ll just have to suffer thru the boring template for now I’m afraid. I used a site building tool thats bundled w/my domain to throw something together but I don’t really like it. Wrong colors and just not me. You can check it out at www.sciber.net. This is my old domain which I eventually plan to phase out.
I did manage to get quite a bit of the domestic crap done over the weekend. I’m home now waiting for my groceries to show up. I absolutely detest domestic chores. The worst being laundry. UGH! Anyway, I’m hoping the delivery guy shows up soon as I want to hit the gym today. I seem to be 100% recovered from the flu. I wonder if thats why I’m feeling ansy?
The only noteworthy thing today was lunch w/TH. He works a standard day shift so we met his lunch/my breakfast so to speak. He is quite the adorable fucker. Once I get his permission, I’ll post a pic so you can be the judge.
I can report the date w/TH (the hottie) went great. I had a busy day so I was a bit rushed by the time rolled around. We ended up at Catch in the Castro which is one of my favorite restaurants. He has a great sense of humor which I found very appealing. I love a guy who can let go and laugh at himself as well as the world around him. He also has this adorable little scar behind his cheekbone that I kept wanting to kiss all thru dinner. Most people wouldn’t have even noticed but I have this thing for tiny scars. It was very distracting. Add to that he was very attentive, charming, and sweet throughout the evening and I came away feeling things I haven’t felt in awhile.
I was a bit nervous at first. We had the ex talk so he knows I’m a bit “vulnerable” right now. [1]I get such a giggle thinking of myself as vulnerable but its more or less true He isn’t really trying to rush it so I soon settled into being my normal terribly incorrigible self so everything worked out great.
The only other odd thing has to do w/me. I have this completely unconscious habit of focusing a conversation on myself. I have no control over it until I notice it and then sort of try to cool it. I have no idea why I do it but I caught myself a couple times and so finally I shared it w/him. We got a nice laugh out of it and he seemed to like it. He got high marks for that. *g*
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I’m tired. I’ve been on the go all day and time for a break. I had lunch w/the ex this morning. We caught up on the usual stuff. He was sorry to hear about my dad passing.
Afterwards, I was off to my first executive board meeting as a newly elected Union member. The exec. board meets once every 2 months to go over Union wide issues, vote, etc. It lasted approximately 3 hours. The one good part was I got to get up and address the entire room regarding conditions at our local chapter, my work. Rarely, being at a loss for words, I gave a pretty quick, direct speech on where we were as a new chapter, what we hoped to accomplish, and advised the membership body of how poorly we’ve been treated/paid. Quite a few people had questions and even more came up to me after it was over saying how invigorating my speech was. Well, I love to toot my horn and nothing gets it loud like a crisis. Needless to say, I got the message across. And I got a nice stipend for showing up too!
Now, I’m gonna try and sneak off to the gym. I have a date tonight and I’m excited. We met at the BCC contest this past Thursday and I couldn’t help but flirt w/him. He seemed mutually inclined so here we are. I never could resist a set of pretty eyes and flashing smile. Both of which, TH (the hottie) has in abundance. This will be the first date I’ve gone on since the break up so I’m a bit nervous. I’ll try to keep my mouth shut and just look pretty.
More later….
I finally made it back to the gym today. My energy tanked after only the second exercise but I kinda expected that. I’m not quite 100% yet. I lowered the weights and went thru the motions just to get my heart rate up. It felt so good to be back in the gym. Crunch is rarely busy during the late mornings when I go which is nice. I pretty much have the run of the gym. No steam room stories today as I was pushed for time. I came into work early.
I’m back on the PD side at work today. They were very short staffed so I got pulled from training. I have to admit the break has been nice. I’ve noticed already, I’m not as short w/irate or stupid callers. I guess sometimes a good break is all it takes.
Tonight is the next prelim contest for the BC calendar. So all you local bitches, get off your rump and go support a good cause! (yes, that means you Tim)
I went on a cleaning frenzy last night. I haven’t really been keeping up on the domestic chores these last two weeks. I put my my new found energy to good use and cleaned the pad. UGH! I hate doing domestic shit. Only thing left is laundry. I’m down to the old socks and jocks so its time.
Now that I’m off my horse for the day, on to the rest of my meanderings. I friend stop by today to get help on his dreamweaver skills. Said friend, who I’ll refer to as P from here on out, is a nice guy and I enjoy his company. However, P always seems to go on and on about drama w/his ex. His ex is a bit psychotic. Today, as usual, he brings up the latest drama w/his ex.
The reason I bring this up is later on he mentions another friend of mine that I know from back home in TX. Said friend, N, lives here now. What cracks me up is P starts telling me about issues he has with N. Issues which seem to be the same issues relating to his ex. So being the good friend that I am, I told him to stop worrying about said ex and move on with his life. The truth often comes out in the end so why worry? *It didn’t work, he missed the cue completely and kept right on rambling*
It is a beautiful day here in the great SF. I’m almost good as new health wise and I’m plugged in here at work. The sun is out, it is warm and the world is rolling by at a nice steady pace. If I may, I’d like to interject some routine drivel.
First, even if you do have the right-of-way, never step in front of a moving muni coach thinking it will stop. Here is a clue. They may call it a LRV (light rail vehicle) but it is by no means light. Those buggers weigh in excess of 20 tons. With this in mind, they do not stop on a dime. DUH!
Second, when your driving down the freeway and your vehicle is on fire. It is considered wise to pull over and exit the vehicle. Just a thought.
*getting off the high horse*
I’m almost back to normal. I’m headed back to the gym tomorrow. OY and do I miss it. I feel so flabby. With the family drama and then getting sick it has been just over two weeks since my last workout. To commemorate the occasion, I’m starting a new workout routine. The only reason I mention this is I’m planning on adding links regarding m routines to the website once I get the flash & php crap figured out. Leave it to me to pick one of the most difficult designs to incorporate.
I ran into a casual friend the other day. I clarify casual here as we know each other but not very well. During the conversation it comes out that he has a bf. But the odd part is they’ve been together 12 years but still live apart. So of course, I asked him, “How exactly does that work?” His reply, “well, I am a very independent person and I like my own space. He spends a lot time at my house but has his own place when we have a fight.”
Ok, my interpretation…sounds like an expensive way to have a cooling off period. But, Hey! if it works for them, who am I to judge. So then I asked, “So I assume you have an open relationship?” His reply, “well, that is a complicated question.” *ding ding, ding ding, we have a winner Johnny* Now we come to the heart of the matter.
By this point, I have several preconceived notions. After prodding & poking several times, the real gist of their relationship becomes clear. They keep separate places so “extra-curricular” activities are private and there is no jealousy issues. For purpose of staying on topic, I’m not touching that one. *g*
Now on to my two cents. I don’t think I could have a serious LTR with a person who wasn’t living w/me. I’m not talking about the initial “getting to know each other part” either. Moving in w/someone is a big step. You definitely need to spend significant time together before you make the leap. I’m referring to two people who have made a commitment to each other as life partners. Part of the reason I yearn for a partner is intimacy. After that comes companionship. Neither of which would be easily accomplished by living apart. Last but not always least, when I sport a woody in the middle of the night, I wanna be able to roll over and take care of it! How is that accomplished by living apart?
I can see it now….
*telephone ringing*
….hello? hey hon, its 3:00 in the morning, anything wrong?
(talking from phone)
Oh, you’re horny? Well why don’t you come over?
(more talking)
No, I don’t feel like driving over, why don’t you come here?
(talking)
Ok, uh-huh.
(yet more talking)
Well, I still don’t feel like it.
(yelling in the phone now)
Well, if you @#$%! lived here, we wouldn’t have this problem now would we?
*hang up*
*giggle* That would SOOOO be something I’d do.
