As I mentioned earlier, Al from Bent Collective wrote an insightful post about HIV and the failed attempts to combat it in this country. A particularly snotty reader w/no balls of his own, wrote a short but insulting post about blame and then attempted to justify his excuse w/an overt assumption that amounts to a lie.
Of course it’s up to the positive guy! If the negative guy doesn’t know, he is innocent- he doesn’t want HIV. It’s a fact there is a large number of gay guys that like to infect. They have parties for it.
You’re standing up for this!
If you read far enough, you’ll see I lost my temper a bit as well. I make no apologies except to the blog owner. Using fear to spread distrust only serves to divide us further. And if you cater such mentality you are definitely reading the wrong blog.
For the record, HIV is relatively hard to catch. Unless you are sharing drug needles or taking it up the butt w/o a condom, your chances are getting it are pretty slim. And for the record again, I do not condone lying. While it may sound reasonable, to say that it is the sole responsibility of the positive person to inform you of their status is folly at best. One, said person may not even know their status. Two, we don’t live in a perfect world. Three, and the most important reason, no one is responsible for your health but you. If you make blind assumptions you move from ignorance into stupidity. If your health is that important to you, are you really going to rely on the honesty of a perfect stranger? It’s all his fault because you were either too afraid or too timid to ask? Sounds like a Ricky Lake episode to me.
Folks I don’t know how much plainer I can say it. If you are negative and want to stay that way use a condom. It really is that simple! After reading this, you no longer have the benefit of claiming ignorance. And if you are still stupid enough to trust your health to a perfect stranger, you can’t claim “innocence” either.