Category: dating

Monday – Blech

I hate Monday’s. Especially after having such a great weekend. However, Monday has arrived and with it comes responsibility. blech!

I did manage to drag my lazy carcass into the gym only to remember halfway thru it I had a Union meeting today and was late. So mid work out (triceps) I had to break and head to work. The meeting went well w/the exception of one Supervisor who only focuses on his needs. Naturally, he is applying to fill the empty managers position. *but I’m not bitter*

Work was uneventful today. Boring if such a thing were possible.

The feeling of enjoyment from the weekend is still w/me. Which is odd as work usually zaps it right out of me. I just had such a relaxing weekend goofing and blogging w/mostovic that I’m in glow mode. *giggle* Norm snapped this shot of us blogging together in the Castro.

Mostovic & Moby Blogging

Great Pic, thanks N!

Cheap Self Plug

Ok, because I know you just love photos, I’m posting these for all of you. It has nothing w/me wanting to show off. Really, I swear. lolol

TH and I had a sleepover and this is our morning after photo.

The Morning After

The photographers for the BCC have gone hog wild taking pics of TH and myself at the prelims. So, of course, I just have to post them.

This one is my favorite. We both came out looking good.

Aren't we cute?

This is my second favorite. This was after the contest was over.

Awww How ADORABLE!

Sick to your stomach yet? lol I have more but I’ll spare you.

I did manage to snag a shot of some friends we ran into at Squat & Gobble. I haven’t seen Tim & Dennis since the breakup so it was good to catch up and chat.

Tim & Dennis

Infectious Blogging…

Well, it has happened folks. The hottie being so intrigued by my blogging has decided to join the fray. You can now read his ramblings at http://mostovic.myblogsite.com. He is very much the novice so hang in there as he moves in and gets settled. I think he is of the mind to blog w/a purpose instead of the rambling style I employ. Feel free to stop by and say hi!

Awkward Moment & Another Chapter Closes

SCANDAL!

I just met the ex’s new beau for the first time! I’m tempted to insert something caddy here but what would be the point. I’m loathe to admit it but he seemed like a nice guy. Personable and friendly. I could tell they were a bit nervous but I guess that was expected under the circumstances. That said, I find I harbor no resentments toward him. He had nothing to do w/the breakup so no sense projecting my issues onto him. (Well, none that I am aware of anyway) The ex seems to be happy w/him so no need for me to pass judgement. If it works, good for him. If not….well, I’ve been true to my own principles thru the whole ordeal so my conscience clear.

I was a bit surprised at myself. I thought I might be upset or annoyed at meeting him. Neither of which happened. I’ll admit, I had a quick pang of jealousy but then I remembered everything that happened thru the break up and since and that disappeared in a flash. The truth is, as painful as the breakup was for me, I think it was for the best. Knowing all the things I know now I guess I have a better perspective of it. As for the ex and his new beau, I wish them all the best.

karma-1 / bitch-0

*forest gump voice* “…and dats all I have to say about dat”

TGIF and Random Bits

Last night was the final preliminary for the BCC. I got there late as I had to work but TH picked me up and we got there just in time to catch contestant #3 of the 5 total. (I usually have their site updated by Sunday)

I snapped off a shot of Thom & Joey, two of the finalists.

Thom & Joey

Now don’t you wish you had gone? *g*

I also managed to snap a lap shot of Th and I. Neither of us liked this shot as it distorts our faces. Oh well, you can’t always have good lighting right?. Instead of looking high, I look like I have a fat head in this one. Speaking of the hottie, we are fast becoming close friends. Now whether that will develop into something more is unknown at this point. We just like spending time w/each other. I have to admit, it is nice to snuggle up next to him when we are out. My ex abhorred any sort of personal affection in public. TH on the otherhand seems to enjoy it as much as I. wahoo!

Mark & Moby

Oh TGIF btw. It has been a decent week w/o the drama queen here. Other than my one rough call things have been nice. The big issue now is our local union chapter is ramping up for a big fight against the city for our raise. The city tripled our duties 2 years ago w/o any sort of raise and we have reached our limit w/that. Things are about to get radical if we don’t see some results soon.

Speaking of the ex, we are scheduled to get together on Sunday and swap out some furniture. We still have some loose ends together. From all the little tattletales who feel the incessant need to give me updates on his life, he seems to be doing fine. I don’t know why they feel the need to run back to me. The ex and I talk often enough I know he is doing ok, I don’t need anyone’s input over it. *hint hint*

Not much else for now. Maybe later I can blather on about something.

I Washed My Heart

I forgot I left my heart on my sleeve and I inadvertently washed it. Just kidding of course. I only say this as I had an interesting conversation w/B from the gym over lunch. We were talking about ex’es but quickly moved on to issues relating to the way gay men interact w/each other. I shared with my philosophy about my own feelings and how I present myself to the world. Mind you, the whole time we are having this conversation thoughts from the little head kept interrupting thoughts from the big head. Of course, the issue of double dating is moot as I discovered B is going on sabbatical for 4 months. Of which, he plans to spend a good chunk cycling across Tuscany. Fucker! I’m so jealous. lolol

Anyway, back on topic. *focus…focus* I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve. I used to do it w/o knowing better and now I do it on purpose. Simply put, I do it to avoid confusion later. I’d rather you know exactly where you stand w/me at any given moment. I don’t hide my thoughts or ideas out of fear of rejection. If you reject me, I move on. It’s that simple. I also tend to be very trusting until given a reason not to be. So from my perspective, wearing my heart on my sleeve, so to speak, serves to protect me. B pointed out something I’d never really thought of before. That I probably intimidate some people by being so completely open. I find that thought a bit fascinating. Not because I’d want to be intimidating but that I actually could. Lunch w/B has been the one bright spot in my day.

I’m in a horrible mood. Mostly because of work. I’m just frustrated as hell because I know that I am justified in my anger but powerless to fix the overall problem. Being an Aquarian, I tend to want to fix things, especially when it affects me directly. I really enjoy my job but the pettiness has taken it’s toll on me. So today I’m trying to consider all my options and come to an arrangement w/myself.

I ran into Tim on the subway and he pointed out something I tend to do here on my blog. I have a habit of downplaying my intelligence. Not being able to stand people who are conceited or arrogant, I tend to over compensate in relation to myself. This should clarify some of the comments above too. So for the record, ‘I be done got smarts’. I have a 128 IQ which I’m told is above average. Not that I care. I am just happy that I always seem to be a quick study w/anything I take an interest too. (Happy now Tim? *g*) Moving on.

Not much else to say at the moment. I haven’t done my blogrolling yet today so I may have some new rant in a bit…

Snackables

I have a lunch date w/the guy I met at the gym a while back. He seems nice and has been understanding about the whole dating thing. I just tried to be brutally honest and it seems to be paying off. Besides, even if we don’t click, I am of the firm belief no one can have too many friends.

Wish me luck!

Pictures Worth A Thousand Words

I’m just home from the BCC contest. We had a whopping 6 contestants tonight. That is the most yet. Four of which made it to the finals. I got there late tonight as my schedule has gone back to normal since getting my fire training out of the way.

TH went w/me, which was very nice. I find I enjoy spending time w/him as we always seem to laugh a lot. I miss that. I took the camera w/me and snapped this pic of him and Thom who is a finalist for the contest.

Thom & The Hottie

Hopefully, I won’t fuck it up and scare him off. *crossed fingers* We did have a good laugh before hand. I wasn’t going to post this originally but you guys already know I’m screwy in the head so here goes. The other night I was feeling a bit lonely. TH had left an under shirt from his sleepover (yes, he slept over one night) and I put it over my pillow so I could sleep w/it. How pathetic is that I ask you? He seemed flattered so I guess all is not lost. I can say I didn’t wake up once that night. *g*

Anyway, back to the present. We had a nice time. All the photographers were snapping pics of us tonight so I’ll have several more pics to post later. I also ran into another friend Mark and his new crush. I snapped off a shot of them as well.

Ivan & Mark

They make a cute couple. Mark (on the right) is a great guy and he deserves someone special in his life. His last LTR ended a bit rough so I was tickled to see he has a new flame as well.

And with that, I’m off to bed.

Riddle Me This…

I discovered last week one of my blog links is dead. However, I’ve left it up in the hope that the author is just in some sort of switch over and will be back up and running soon. If you are like me and blog bounce, yes I know the link isn’t working.

I had a surprise date w/TH last night. His family weekend went over ok but apparently there was some friction which was very disappointing for him. I felt awful because I knew how much he wanted this weekend to go perfect. He sounded so distraught on the first message he left me on Saturday that I actually teared up a bit. Family problems are a sensitive spot for me I guess. Mine was so horrible I get overly emotional when I hear people going thru such unnecessary stupidity over being gay. I don’t think he’d appreciate me going into the specifics so that’s enough about that.

I did my best to distract him from it. We had a movie night and watched Auntie Mame. I just knew that would cheer him up. Plus, I told him he couldn’t carry his gay card anymore until he’d seen it. I mean NO gay man should grow up w/o watching The Grand Mamie! He loved it of course. We laughed our butts off. I felt like mission accomplished.

Before the date, I spent a chunk of the evening hanging out in the Castro w/buddy Tim and Norm Norm is one of the photographers for The Powerhouse and he also does a lot of the shots for the BCC as well. We ran into each other and started talking shop about laptops, pics, etc and then Tim came along and joined us. Tim proceeded to regale us w/tales of being cornered by a troll at the bar and wanted to know if the way he handled it was respectful/appropriate. Let’s just say he was WAY nicer than I would have been. I use the term “troll” to refer to people, regardless of their age, who force themselves on you and use your own good manners against you to further insinuate themselves into your personal space. There are other more derogatory uses but I don’t think I need to elaborate. I wonder if Webster has the updated definition of the word. *mental note – email Webster crew w/details and proper usage*

Not much else to ramble about I’m afraid. Give it time, I’m sure something will inspire me.