As I mentioned earlier, Al from Bent Collective wrote an insightful post about HIV and the failed attempts to combat it in this country. A particularly snotty reader w/no balls of his own, wrote a short but insulting post about blame and then attempted to justify his excuse w/an overt assumption that amounts to a lie.
Of course it’s up to the positive guy! If the negative guy doesn’t know, he is innocent- he doesn’t want HIV. It’s a fact there is a large number of gay guys that like to infect. They have parties for it.
You’re standing up for this!
If you read far enough, you’ll see I lost my temper a bit as well. I make no apologies except to the blog owner. Using fear to spread distrust only serves to divide us further. And if you cater such mentality you are definitely reading the wrong blog.
For the record, HIV is relatively hard to catch. Unless you are sharing drug needles or taking it up the butt w/o a condom, your chances are getting it are pretty slim. And for the record again, I do not condone lying. While it may sound reasonable, to say that it is the sole responsibility of the positive person to inform you of their status is folly at best. One, said person may not even know their status. Two, we don’t live in a perfect world. Three, and the most important reason, no one is responsible for your health but you. If you make blind assumptions you move from ignorance into stupidity. If your health is that important to you, are you really going to rely on the honesty of a perfect stranger? It’s all his fault because you were either too afraid or too timid to ask? Sounds like a Ricky Lake episode to me.
Folks I don’t know how much plainer I can say it. If you are negative and want to stay that way use a condom. It really is that simple! After reading this, you no longer have the benefit of claiming ignorance. And if you are still stupid enough to trust your health to a perfect stranger, you can’t claim “innocence” either.
BRAVO!!! Well said Moby!
We live in a society where nobody seems to want to take responsibility for their own actions. None. I’m bored with those who are always looking for someone else to blame. Really, you said it quite well. Be responsible already.
Yes, very well said. And my heartfelt condolances on your loss. How lucky he was that you were a part of his life. God bless you. Paul
Curtis nailed it, nobody likes to take responsibility for their own actions. If they did a whole lot of lawyers would be out of work.
Once again Moby I am sorry to hear about your loss.
We all have ownership in this and Moby, you’re right – we are responsible for our own health and ensurance of it!
As an HIV+ man, it is always my responsibility to ensure the safety of my partner. No matter how innocent or foolishly my partner might behave. It may sound trite but HIV does end with me. That is just the way it is.
Peace to you brother, I am saddened by your loss.
You’d think by the year 2006 people would get the concept of personal responsibility. But no…it’s easier to demonize than to take charge of your own destiny.
Methinks everyone got their cages rattled by a troll.
Well, there’s no speaking for intelligence…espially when one doesn’t have any!
Hopes and hugs for you, Moby! Keep on keepin’ on!