Awhile back someone asked me to give my definition of drama. Webster’s dictionary gives one definition as “a situation or succession of events in real life having the dramatic impression or emotional effect characteristic of a play.”
I’d agree w/that however, I’d amend to include “any situation or problem thru action or inaction usually avoided w/a small amount personal reflection beforehand…”.
I think into everyone’s life some drama must fall. Otherwise, what’s the point of living. You learn nothing from a carefree existence. That said, having grown up in a drama-intense environment, I’ve learned while some cannot be avoided, most CAN. I find in most situations the drama is usually self-inflicted from a variety of causes. That is a rant for another day.
I bring it up today as I got a call this week from my best friend, Trev, back in TX. Apparently, my ex friend from here was back home and cornered Trev at the park. He then proceeded to tell Trev how horrible a person I am, how all I’ve ever done is hold him back, and how I constantly try to keep him beneath me. Ironically, my ex friend has always hated Trev as he felt threatened by his friendship w/me. Was he thinking Trev would suddenly say “you know, even though you’ve always been jealous and despised me, I think you’re right. I’m gonna dump Moby as a friend“? I’m sure you can guess that didn’t happen. However, Trev did call me to ask why he felt the need to share it w/him in the first place.
My first thought was to send my ex-friend an email but I’m reminded of my definition of drama. Knowing him as well as I do, his actions are a blatant attempt to strike back at me and to get me to respond to him. By doing so, I’m quite sure I’d be inviting more drama into my life once again. Of which, I don’t really need. Nor do I need to flesh out a problem he isn’t even capable of understanding.
So that’s my definition of drama. I reserve the right to append or amend at any time in the future as wisdom dictates. *g*
You did the right thing. If you responded you would given him the satisfaction of knowing he was getting to you.
As tough as it was you are the bigger man.
Hi Moby!
My first post here. Hmmm! Or is it my second? In any event, hi. I came across your blog via Rob at roblog (someone who’s turning into a real friend) and Steve at Bent Collective, periodically popping in to read your posts.
Your topic struck a cord. I agree with your thought process almost entirely as to what drama is. In fact, I am dealing with a friend, though only have known him for a slightly under a year, that I think I am about to cut loose too! Mine is a 46 yr old ‘non-adult’ – the only way I can describe him.
Good post!
PS. You’re be discussed in the comments section of Steve’s Bent Collective post for today, 2/12/06. Don’t panic! It’s flattery of sorts.
Of course you might consider “melodrama” as the deliberate creation of discord in order to achieve the appearence of drama. I see that quite a bit and it tires me.
I have to disagree. I think the gay community has created their own meaning of the word “drama”. I still haven’t totally figured it out, but they seem to use it when they can’t explain their own actions.