I’m gonna go off on a rant here. (The trip info is still in works.)
I’ve been chatting w/a friend from back home in Houston via email for a few days now. Due to my schedule on such a short trip, we did not get time to visit in person. Anyway, I discovered he recently split w/his bf. There seem to be some striking parallels between his and my breakup. I got very teary eyed after reading his latest email. The pain he is going thru is all too familiar. Saying ‘it will get better’ is so cliche. We all know it will but, it does nothing to lesson the pain now.
I think I’m gonna start a sex site called “Sex with Strings”. Meaning…yeah you can hook up for sex but the focus is also on finding someone compatible out of bed as much as in bed. Wouldn’t that be a gas!? I wonder if it would go over well. I’m obviously trying to make light of things here. However, I do believe that our culture has these polarity in regards to sex and relationships. It’s always “looking for long term LTR not hookups” or “looking for hookups only“. Why can’t you look for both? I know it ties into our irrational need to conform to the hetero morality. Lets face it folks, men are wired differently than women. So when you take women out of the equation, it doesn’t make sense to try and apply rules that were never meant for same sex relationships. DUH! I’m not saying monogamy doesn’t have a place in same sex LTR’s, (which so many often intepret I do), just that we need to be honest w/ourselves and our partners about our needs/desires. It’s that simple.
Ok, I’m totally off focus here but that’s it for now. I need to get ready for work.
I think it’s a great idea! It’s like a “rent to own” concept!
And duh, you get horny while going on a series of “first dates” (which, regretably, may not follow with a “call back.”)
Plus, I have met guys who were completely turned off at the mere HINT of a LTR. It frightens them, like deer eyes in a headlight. This is where “rent to own is effective.” Casual, let it develop! If nothing develops, so be it. At least you get some hot, consensual sex!
Great post. I am in a relationship but STRUGGLE with monogamy and he and I have WAY different views on sex. I love my boy but I tell you it is tough to find a guy compatible. We are SOOO not but we stay together cause it is comfortable if that makes sense. Great blog btw. Will prolly add ya!
You know, sometimes I think about that. Sure I can have a quick hookup when my hormones are raging, but most of the time, I just want to actually see where it can go with someone… I don’t see why you can’t have both.. a hookup that could possibly lead into something more. Hmmm maybe that’s just the hopeless romantic coming out in me rather than the realist.