Well, I guess it was inevitable. I’ve gotten several questions on whether The Pup and I were planning to be in a monogamous LTR. I’m not sure why exactly it was a reoccurring question but whatevs. lol One person’s implication was that if I really wanted it to work then I should be willing to give up being open. I guess all my gushing here and elsewhere has led some to think I’ve abandoned my previous rants in favor of this new relationship. If you read with any regularity you should know the answer to that question is no. If anything, my breaking my own rules has been the bane of my previous LTRs. lol A huge part of why The Pup and I are getting along so well is because I haven’t abandoned what I want. To be perfectly frank, this was just as easy for us to assimilate as everything else has been between us. [1]ok, I’m bragging a little here. I just can’t get over how much he and I seem to agree on things so easily.
I support anyone’s right to be in a MLTR (Monogamous LTR)) but it is not for me and it is not something I want. I’d rather stay single than lock myself into something I don’t want. Yes, it is flexible and not an all or nothing agreement. Yes, it is important enough to me that I wouldn’t enter into an LTR with a restriction I didn’t want. If we weren’t on the same page then we wouldn’t be truly compatible.
Lawd knows, I’ve ranted here a plethora of times regarding my thoughts on the issue. We as gay men and women have the unique opportunity to set our own rules and standards. We are not bound by institutionalized traditions based on gender-discordant [2]my new term for straight couples relationships. While we can follow in their footsteps, we aren’t bound to. A subtle but important distinction. And the point of my rant today is The Pup and I are of one mind on the subject. It works for us. But because it works for us doesn’t mean that I insist that it works for everyone.That would be as equally foolish as those who insist monogamy is for everyone.
Many seem to think I’m against monogamy when I’m not. Just don’t expect me not to point out flaws in the rather common yet failed logic often used to justify the monogamous-only approach. I support it when it is based on a fundamental desire vs insecurities and a form of control.
Hopefully that should clear up any confusion on the subject. 
Shawn Sabin liked this on Facebook.
you should do whatever works for you both. that’s all that matters anyway. :p
Stan Santos liked this on Facebook.
It’s your relationship. Do it your way. Monogamous or not. No one else’s business.
Matthew Johnson nicknames are very personal for me. We both enjoy our respective nicks.
You Californians with your enlightened “relationships”. SIGH. Essentially, you’ll be “roommates” sharing expenses and sometimes having sex with each other. You’ll both be on the couch using various social aps to get laid with conversations like… “Oh, honey… guess what?! I swallowed 3 loads today!” “YOU DID? I swallowed 5!” “Yay, for you boo!” SMOOCH. SMOOCH. SMOOCH. Boy… there is gonna be sum critters in dat house! 🙂
It’s easy to marginalize my existence based on nothing more than ignorance and bias. I give you credit, you’re always good for a laugh.
Ignoring for the moment all the things wrong with your comment, who are you to judge if I’m\we’re happy? If YOU spent less time judging others and more time working on you, you might find less ‘brett-haters’ in the world.
I am a Sith Lord… hatred… scorn… harsh words… intoxicate and feed me. 😉 LOL.
Are people really rude enough to ask that? Not yo bidness…
congrats to you and pup for sticking to what works for you!
That is very true. We all have the right to choose if we monogamous or not. Depends on the relationship for me.
Cory Iwatsu liked this on Facebook.
Sex is just sex. It’s not love. You always come home to the one you truly love.
You always come home to the one that feeds you Blobby. That makes you a dog. 😉
said the man who has food waiting at his mom’s house or from mean cub. arf arf.
I used to look down at people who had “open” relationships. THEN, I realized my current partner moved in with me and my lover almost three years before my lover passed. When meeting new people, I would introduce Joe as my lover and Sean as my boyfriend. And I’ve realized since then that I have several friends in the same boat. My therapist says I’m already in an “alternate” live style so I should feel fine doing what feels fine to me.
I have them TRAINED well! 😉