I’m an asshole, the ruin of society, arrogant, egotistical, stupid, a sinner, and a dirty cocksucker (Well, the last one I can agree on). So says a very militant group of supporters on monogamy. Of course, the other camp called me a visionary, a master of discussion, and a hero. How ever do I pull all of that off at the same time? Perception certainly is a funny thing ain’t it? [1]We’ll crack that nut another day.
The truth is, I don’t pull any of it off. I’m just honest. I’m also willing to look beyond the confines of what I’m told I must do or believe to what I want/desire. I’m learning to let go of the fear/worry of what is expected of me by others. These days, I tend to focus more on what I want me to be. An entirely different path it seems. And my post was about me sharing my views on the subject not to convert anyone else. If you read it again, I clearly ask you to discover for yourself what honestly works for you. No easy task for sure.
Clearly, several folks were able to express a difference of opinion without being mean. And I thank you for it. I am not so foolish as to cover a topic as touchy as this and not expect some fall-out. [2]I got texts, emails, comments, and phone calls about it. lol Apparently, I struck a nerve. However, I ask I demand common courtesy and respect. In my eyes, you lose all credibility when you resort to name calling and condemnation. I have no use for such in my life or on this blog.
And for the more die-hard Moby fans, I posted a follow-up hidden post which shared more of my own carnal views on the subject. What? You missed it? Tsk, tsk. Maybe you should be logged in. [3]Ok, yes, I’m doing a plug for the blog here. I do like knowing people read. Besides, I figure I’ll need a few new readers after my latest rant. lol
Looking at the bigger picture for a moment, I’m still discovering what it is to be me. My views on morality, sex, monogamy, etc are just that, my views. Some things I’ve assimilated and processed other folks never get around to. The reverse could be said of me too. I am an imperfect being created by imperfect beings. [4]Totally stealing a sci-fi quote here As I get older, I realize the truth of that statement. Not so much what it says on the surface but what it implies underneath. We all struggle. We find guides, support, and road-blocks constantly in life. Perfection is a goal we will never reach. But it is is not the goal that matters. It is the struggle to obtain perfection that gives our lives meaning.
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| ↑1 | We’ll crack that nut another day. |
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| ↑2 | I got texts, emails, comments, and phone calls about it. lol Apparently, I struck a nerve. |
| ↑3 | Ok, yes, I’m doing a plug for the blog here. I do like knowing people read. Besides, I figure I’ll need a few new readers after my latest rant. lol |
| ↑4 | Totally stealing a sci-fi quote here |
“We all struggle. We find guides, support, and road-blocks constantly in life. Perfection is a goal we will never reach. But it is is not the goal that matters. It is the struggle to obtain perfection that gives our lives meaning. ”
You summed it up perfectly!
Which is sadder, that you used that line from First Contact or that I immediately knew where it was from and was instantly jealous that you used it? I’m guessing the latter.
Someone actually was nasty about your post? WTF? (I’m taking it that it wasn’t in the comments but by email or something).
Unlike some other posts on the non-monogamous side (actually, also the monogamous side), your post left a lot of room for subtlety and certainly did not say that those that disagree with you are delusional or something. How does this conversation instantly devolve into name-calling.
I know it happens, but I don’t get it.
You’ll see my comment in the private section…but suffice it to say that we’re not here to chuck stones at our buddy for expressing his views. I think we’re probably afraid that his views are painfully close to our own, but we’re afraid to admit it. I loved your words, your heart, your post. Keep it up. And I love that dirty cocksucker part!
Well, I missed all that drama! Sorry people reacted that way.
Personally, I think it’s great that you’ve given the subject so much thought, and that you are up front and honest about it. Far better to be honest about it, than to sneak around behind someone’s back, I know.
the appropriate response, when called a dirty cocksucker must only be “” why, thank you.”
1) Glad your brother didn’t get more seriously injured.
2) Like your take on monogamy versus committment
3) Hope things work with TFA– sounds like you are still quite taken with him
4) CanNOT believe that someone just popped up to you and asked why you were gay. I probably would have fired back “Same reason you are ugly– genetics.”
Moby, I don’t live my life like you nor do I expect that you should. We are all individuals and manage our lives to our own hearts desires and rhythms. I like who you are. I enjoy your blog and I’m happy you are alive and well.