Like a fool, I let a friend who I know is high-drama drag it into my home this past weekend. I thought I was doing him a favor in letting him hang out with me. Maybe give him a chance to bond and vent a little. Oh, it started out good. He comes over and we stay up laughing and playing Xbox till the wee hours of the morning. I thought it a good way to get his mind off the situation. However, it went downhill from there. Without all the gory details, in the space of 12 hours he managed to not only disrespect me but my roommate, my neighbors, and my landlord.
I like to think I am pretty easy going. That said, I’ve learned sometimes people can use your good will against you. I knew he was a drama addict. Why? Because I’ve been there; a life full of drama but lacking in responsibilty. I admit, it is a bit odd seeing a straight counterpart in the same place I was 10-15 years ago. Oh, the faces and names are different but the scenarios are the same. I was lucky enough to find my way and grow out of it. I’m beginning to wonder if my friend ever will. He goes from one self-induced dramatic episode to the next.
I’m not the only one who is growing tired of his BS either. Several of my co-workers are a bit fed up as well. He has systematically used up most of the good will afforded him. If he isn’t careful he may not have any friends left soon. For my part, I’ve ended more meaningful friendships for similar problems so I’m not about to change now. And while this current episode doesn’t reach that level just yet, I’ll think twice before I invite him over again.
I know you’re frustrated at your friend Moby. When I see a friend or acquaintance do things similar to one of my past “missteps”, my knee-jerk reaction is to warn them and tell them the folly of their ways. Then, upon reflection, I usually keep my mouth shut because I remember back and realize that if anyone had given me sage advice, I woul’ve just gotten upset and blew them off.
Has anyone sat this person down and talked to him? maybe he simply needs a kick in the ass with some cold, hard facts to bring down the drama.
jeez! Was that wreck Justin Timberlake stripping naked and running around the apartment and into the street AGAIN? what’s up with him? oops! I bet I wasn’t suppose to name names. oh well. sorry!
I’d keep him away for awhile, that’s for sure.